It is a mistake to believe that as soon as the mother came out of the decree and placed the baby in a kindergarten, the problems would be settled. Even in kindergarten, events that overshadow parenthood can await. For example, conflicts between a teacher and a child.
Willy-nilly, moms and dads have to get involved in proceedings: who, if not parents, will protect their baby? The situation is not pleasant, but it can be dealt with with the proper approach.
Causes of conflicts in kindergarten
Before writing complaints to the Ministry of Education, shouting and sorting things out, you should figure out what is the cause of the conflict between the teacher and the baby.
There can be several reasons for the occurrence of collisions, both on the part of the child and on the part of the educator. Most often, conflicts occur due to the fact that:
- the child does not obey, violates the rules of the kindergarten;
- the child bullies other children, beats them, calls them names, frightens, offends;
- educators cannot find an approach to the baby;
- the caregiver has a biased attitude towards the baby for personal reasons (for example, because of the work of parents, nationality or religion);
- the child is forced to do what he does not want to do (eat porridge, play outdoor games);
- in the educational process, psychological or even physical methods of influence are used;
- the educator cannot cope with his emotions;
- parents forget to pay for kindergarten, put a change of clothes for the child, pick up the children after the official end of the working day, which is why the teacher breaks down on the baby;
- parents bring their children to kindergarten without basic self-care skills, which creates difficulties for other children and kindergarten workers;
- parents bring sick children to the garden, which negatively affects the entire group and staff as a whole.
As you can see, there are many reasons for conflicts between the child and the teacher, so the list is endless. However, the most significant and private reasons can be called the first three of those listed above. The rest are more connected with their parents, and the child in such a conflict acts as a third party, as if taking the blow.
What to do and how to avoid conflicts
Moms and dads should remember that conflict can be both prevented and ended. But for this you will have to arm yourself with your own wisdom, patience and sanity.
If the child complains about the teacher, and the teacher complains about the child, you do not need to immediately run to the director of the kindergarten and write a complaint with the aim of firing the teacher. First you need to find out all the circumstances.
Perhaps the child is not at all such an angel as you are used to seeing him at home? If he really offends other kids, on a walk he strives to run over the fence all the time, takes away toys or throws sand, then it’s clearly not the teacher. A negative attitude towards the baby, although morally unacceptable, is predictable. Perhaps, in order to reduce the conflict between teachers and the child, you just need to seriously take up the upbringing of your son or daughter. If necessary, you can contact a child psychologist.
If it turns out that the actions of the educator were unlawful (for example, he beats the child on the hands when he sees that he writes with his left hand, or simply uses physical punishment), then in this case you can apply directly to the leadership of the institution, and sometimes even to the police.
Until the details are clarified, do not take active steps, after all, the presumption of innocence is not empty words, and children at preschool age are very fond of fantasizing.
A few communication hacks
It is no secret that many parents perceive educators as enemies: their upbringing methods are outdated, and no one will love a child more than their parents, and in general they are too young or too old.
All educators are people to whom, if desired, you can definitely find an approach. To do this, it is enough to talk and discuss the conflict at a convenient time. It happens that the solution to the problem lies on the surface — and it just needs to be discussed together. Of course, you need to talk not in raised tones, but respectfully and calmly.
Listen to the teacher and decide what you can do together to resolve the misunderstanding. Of course, if an educator takes up arms against a toddler because they never have a change of dance shoes in their locker, then you, as a parent, need to provide your child with the right shoes.
Tell us about the methods of education adopted in your family, about the habits of the baby or about his features. So the teacher will quickly find an approach to the child and will not make the same mistakes. Feel free to say that the child does not yet know how to tie shoelaces, and therefore is slowly putting on shoes. Or tell them that the baby does not like to sleep against the wall.
Diplomatic dialogue with the educator is the best way to end the conflict. Be sure to find out the cause of the unfair attitude and eliminate it. However, do not quarrel with teachers over trifles, so as not to aggravate the situation, after all, mutual respect and understanding is the key to a friendly attitude towards your child.